You Are What You Tolerate

You Are What You Tolerate

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I Tolerated Too Much.


There’s a pattern I’ve noticed in my coaching clients — and in myself.

When things start to feel off, it’s rarely a sudden collapse. It’s more like a slow leak.
Something’s not quite right…
…but you don’t deal with it.
You tell yourself, “It’s fine for now.”

You let it slide—because you’re tired, or busy, or because addressing it means a tough conversation, a delay, a hit to someone’s ego.

I know this because I’ve done it. More than I’d like to admit.


Confession: I tolerated too much.

I tolerated unclear briefs.
I tolerated team dynamics that drained energy in everyone.
I tolerated almost good enough in my product, output, and sales. 

And it cost me—not in a dramatic, explosive way, but in the slow erosion of momentum, revenue and trust.


The truth is:

You are what you tolerate.
Your leadership, your team, your results—they are all shaped by what you’re willing to let slide.

This isn't about perfectionism.
It's about compound integrity. The kind that builds week by week, not with big heroic gestures, but in everyday moments when you choose to hold the line.


Compound Leadership Means Raising the Bar — Gently, Relentlessly.

When I look at the leaders I admire most, they don’t tolerate sloppiness—not because they’re harsh, but because they care.
Their standards are high.
Their boundaries are kind.
Their commitment is deep.

That’s what I’m aiming for now: a leadership practice that’s grounded in clarity and courage—not avoidance dressed up as patience.


Reflection for the Week:
  • What have you been tolerating—internally or externally—that no longer serves you?

  • Where are your standards out of sync with the outcomes you want?

  • What small act of refusal could shift the momentum this week?


Remember: Compound Leadership isn’t about fixing everything at once.
It’s about refusing to settle—one decision, one conversation, one standard at a time.

Let’s keep raising the bar — together.

Stay steady,
Jed

The Compound Leader

Weekly insights with real stories to help you build momentum that lasts.

The Compound Leader

Weekly insights with real stories to help you build momentum that lasts.

The Compound Leader

Weekly insights with real stories to help you build momentum that lasts.